10 Definitive Ways To Tell You’re In Love With The Right Someone

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Falling in love is one of the most exciting, rewarding and scariest things you could ever do.

Once you’re in love with someone, it’s hard to remember how you lived without him or her. Of course, you were alive before you met this person, but you really didn’t start “living” until the two of you met.

I remember when I first fell in love with my girlfriend; it was a very scary feeling, as I had managed to elude love for the entirety of my life before her. I specifically remember the transition from when I liked Vanessa to when I began to love her.

Vanessa went from being someone who made me smile to being the greatest catalyst of the happiness and joy in my life. She went from a gorgeous girl I met to the most beautiful girl I know. She went from my crush to the love of my life.

Everyone experiences love differently, and at different times. Even the meaning of love is extremely subjective, but I say for certain that anyone who’s experienced it knows it’s the best feeling ever.

Here are 10 ways to know if you might be in love — rather than in like — with someone:

1. The best part of your day
As Childish Gambino said, “When I’m alone, I’d rather be with you.” Seeing my girlfriend is always the highlight of my day. If you really love someone, you never truly get tired of him or her.

No matter how great your day might be going, your special person will make it better. When you just like someone, he or she might make your day better, but probably isn’t the best part.

2. The first person you think about
Your love will be the first person you think about when you wake up and the last person you think about before you go to sleep. When something good happens to you, this is the first person you want to tell.

When something bad happens to you, you look to this person for support.

3. Prioritize above your own needs
Love is selfless. I was the most important person in my world until I met my girlfriend. Once I fell in love with her, her needs became much more important than my own.

This is just how love is. Your needs always seem trivial in comparison to your significant other’s needs.

4. You’d do anything
If I tried to construct a list of things I wouldn’t do for my girlfriend, the list would be pretty empty. When you’re in love with someone, you do whatever you can to make the person happy.

When you like someone, you may feel like there is a lot you would do for the person, but you have your limits. True love knows no limits.

5. You are never afraid to express your feelings in public
I have this semi-bad habit of telling the world how in love I am with my girlfriend.

When you’re truly in love, you want everyone to know. You are not bashful about your feelings by any means. When you like someone, there is a lot of holding back on how you feel.

6. You love the imperfections
My girlfriend is the most beautiful girl I know, but she does have some imperfections. But, to me, they’re not imperfections — they’re unique qualities and things I love.

When I tease her about them, she thinks I am making fun of her, but I am truly just admiring them. Love is the ability to know and accept someone’s faults.

You may know the imperfections of a person you like, but having the capacity to embrace them likely won’t happen unless you fall in love.

7. You think long-term
When you’re in love with someone, it’s hard to imagine a future without the person in it. For this reason, you will think long-term about how you can build a life with this person.

You won’t give in to short-term temptations that might mess up your long-term goals. When you just like someone, thinking long-term can be pretty scary.

8. You become a better person
No one is perfect; we all have room for improvement. But, being in love will force you to work on these things.

You want to become the best version of yourself for the person you love. I am a better person now than I was before I met my girlfriend.

9. Your feelings are unconditional
When you love someone unconditionally, it means that your love knows no conditions and is absolute. I don’t actually like the term “unconditional love” because I think it’s redundant — I believe all true love is unconditional.

When you like someone, your feelings change depending on the condition.

10. Your love is your best friend
Sometime along the way, my girlfriend became my best friend. I believe this to be true for most people who fall in love.

Your significant other becomes your partner in crime. You feel like, together, you can take on the world.

Expectations - A Big Yes!

Many a times I have read thoughts, articles, posts,quotes and what not on how to make life better by not expecting anything from it. For a very long period of time I conditioned myself thinking if I am expecting too much from life, people, job, relationships than I am actually doing more harm to myself. I am making myself miserable by doing so, but my perspective changed, my husband changed it all for me and when I took the oath of marriage I realized that expecting is my right in real sense.

I have all the right in this world to expect from life, If I have expectations of a good, happy, abundant life than it ain't bad, I am not hurting anyone in doing that and if imagining about these expectations gives me happiness than voila I am on the correct path. My husband has made me realize that expectations in a relationship is a must, he expects me to love him unconditionally, to stand by him in his thick and thins, to take interest in his interests and off-course vice-verse is also there. My point here is that expectations helps in blossoming the heart, expectations makes life beautiful, you shout it out loud and declare it to the universe your demands and you get what you want, it's the actions and the same actions are required in any sort of relationship you are into. You do expect from your brother/sister, from friends. Our parents expect us to do certain things, and they are not wrong in doing so, they all can expect because we are the ones who have given them the right to expect.

So, next time somebody tell you to expect nothing, tell them expectation gives happiness, it's important for any relationship to flourish and it's ok to not be able to fulfill all the expectations, you fail but that is a part of life and it shouldn't stop you from expecting. If the other person is not able to match your expectations than create a dialogue, tell them what they mean to you and how you want the relation to be like, drop that ego and speak with your heart. Love with all your might and see the change.

Expect all the good things from life, people and relationships because each one of us is worth all the happiness the universe has to offer.

True Friendships!!!

"She is my best friend, I can't imagine my life without her", "we have have a BFF's #selfie", lately I am coming across such lines on a regular basis. Social media is changing the definition of best friends, best friends now a days think alike, dress alike, have same tastes, the best friends have the same gossip to share and everything else which can easily get attention on social media but have we ever thought that true relation of a friend is beyond all this, somehow I have realized that best friendships and best relations are formed without any similarity of tastes and passions, the best friends just tend to happen, even if they don't meet on regular basis, the true friendships nurture in the longest of distances and the deepest of smiles, the best friends can read your mind just by the way you say hello on a call, they hardly dress up like you, their tastes might not be similar as yours but the connection you share with them beats all the materialism requires to pass the test of friendship these days.

When hearts are connected , distances take a back seat. You move on with life and so does your best friends but never in your mind for a second you feel that this distance might harm your friendship, off-course meeting and chilling out together doesn't happen that frequently but no matter how far your friend is you know that just a phone call is enough to tell them that you need them and sometimes they know even without a call that you need them and when you develop this kind of relationship with someone and look back how it all started, you will realize that all the drama that took place then was just a process of bringing you and your best friend closer, it was a law in play which had a purpose and the purpose is disclosed now.

Instead of running through life, let's be grateful for what we have, try being grateful to a friend who has been with you in your thick and thins, who knows you inside out, no matter how far you reach in life or how rich you become, your real wealth lies in the people you have spent your precious growing years with and if they are still a phone call away , you are sorted for life. Embrace life and the true relations. Be as passionate and thankful to your friends offline as much as your to them online.

This blog-post is taken from http://divyasa11.blogspot.com/

Friends & Relationships

Friends are always great to have but when you are in a relationship, they can cause more trouble than you bargained. We hope none of your friends are trying to ruin your relationship intentionally though. That would probably make them a bad friend unless they are trying to tear you both apart for your own good.

E.g – You are constantly being put to the wall and they are telling you how bad your partner is and how you should leave them, setting up the playground for you two to break up, etc. Even though they are “technically” trying to be a good friend, you should make the decisions in your relationship and not have friend take matters into their own hands.

The Golden rule of this dilemma is to keep a lot of things under cover. Even if he/she is your best friend, they shouldn’t know what they are not suppose to.

When the  amount of  information passed is less naturally the interference decreases.Close friends have a habit of giving out free advice, like your looks a bit fat in that out outfit or how you both are a misfit. They will try to get you to talk to someone else, go clubbing and meet new people, give you bad relationship advice, and all other things that are not good when you are in a relationship.  Its always good to judge the status of your relationship on your own rather than talking somebody else’s point of view.

True friends aren’t backstabbers or people that seduces or takes a partner away from their friends. Just make sure you have loyal and trustworthy friends who you can count on and won’t betray you